Over protective

While discussing certain issues in today's world, a friend and i stumbled upon a topic which i found to be quiet interesting to write about. Its not a topic, per say, but just a discussion subject. His views and my views were quiet different. 

We were discussing how over-protective he is about his sister, and that this should not be the case because he has all the freedom him self but his sister doesn't. When i talk of over protective brothers from India, i'm talking of the famous "no mini skirts" and the "no boyfriend" or "who was that guy with you at the mall" rules. If the brother can have a girlfriend or do whatever he wants why can't the sister. I am sure the brother is not sexist. So his response was "just because i'm over protective".

I just put a simple point across, which most of us tend to forget. The girl or guy you are going to marry is also someone's sister or brother. I'm sure their siblings are also over protective about them. So when you talk of freedom for yourself, let's see, you've indulged in a lifestyle which might not be accepted by the girl or her brother, so how do you expect that your sister would be a straight forward, good Indian girl? 

At this stage the conversation got more in depth and to discuss it here would take pages and pages of writing. So moving on, my thoughts on the topic of over protectiveness, i feel that as a person you should have control over your feelings and protectiveness. Your sister or brother does have the freedom to think for themselves, to make mistakes for themselves. A lot of you might disagree here, but being an elder brother or sister, i am sure they have also made mistakes and learnt, just like our parents. Parents give you advice on what to do and what not to do. Do we follow it? Most of the time the answer is no. 

As an older sibling, its better to give an advice to your youger sibling but then let them learn from their own mistakes, do not control their lives or put restrictions on their lives. Humans have a tendency to run away from over protectiveness, and in the long run you might lose the special bond with your sibling if you get over protective.